Most of our lives are played over and over again in our minds.  We reminisce about the good times and decisions are made constantly based on our experiences and what we think of them.

Ahhh  what we think of them.  It is what we think of our experiences and the things we have been taught or even learned on our own (instead of a particular teacher) that constitutes how we react or respond (which IS very different).

So…  it comes to question… what do you replay.  I mean… what to think about?  How do you think about it?  Do you “replay” the good or the bad?  Do you tend to remember the good things or the bad?  Do you dwell, focus, or otherwise live in the light or the darkness?  This is not to say that all darkness is bad.  I’m using that figuratively.  Do you live with hatred or forgiveness?  Do you live expecting the best or the worst in yourself or others?

How you think effects how you live.  What you think about effects how you think.  Are you a “glass half empty” or a “glass half full” type person?  You see…  what you focus on is what you choose to create in your life.  If you choose to live thinking on the negative, you will consistently behave in such a way as to bring things to pass that will create exactly what  you feel will happen.  Negativity.  Choosing to live peacefully and positively will bring about positive and peace in your life.

Ok… so this one is short.  I hope you liked it just the same.  It is simple.  It sounds simpler than it really is.  Kind of like “easier said than done” I know.  Still, it can be done.   A lot depends on what you feed your brain.  More depends on what you choose to replay over and over again.  Need more?  Let me know will you?


Author: memman

Too much to tell. There is more than what is seen on the surface of any man. Some have more layers than others. I have many.

3 thoughts on “replay”

  1. Some interesting points Dan. And boy are you right that it sounds simpler than it is. As I read it, it strikes me that “positive and negative” “light and dark”, hatred and forgiveness, etc,… are not quite as straightforward as you portray here. If it were, I think focusing on light and on positive things always, would be a clear choice, and everyone would know that is what to do to have a more joyful and peaceful life. After all, who wouldn’t choose joyful and peaceful, over hateful and miserable? Right?
    But when it comes down to it, we are what we are, and we feel what we feel. And our feelings run so deep, they respond not only to what we are aware that we are thinking and believing in our daily lives, but also to that which we are unaware that we are thinking and believing in our daily lives. The latter of these two are “in the dark”. They are operating undercover in our lives, without our awareness.
    So that’s where I really like what you are saying here. It points us toward becoming more aware of what it is we are thinking daily, and especially if we are repeatedly thinking it daily. It helps gives us clues as to what our unconscious may be up to.
    And in as much as what you’re saying helps bring what is “in the dark”, more “into the light”, I believe that to be helpful. But it is very easy for us to fool ourselves. The reasons that we do what we do are critical. What am I saying?
    Here it is:
    You infer that it is better to be “forgiving” than “hateful”… to be someone who sees the glass half full, instead of half empty. And that CAN be the case, but not necessarily. Its worth saying again, the reasons we do what we do are critical. Those may be the best things to ponder rather than “positive” vs “negative”.
    For example someone who makes a lot of positive statements to get others to see them as a “positive person” or a “good Christian” or some other label that will help them move toward a status that they want to have in the eyes of those around them… this is an example of someone whose true thoughts and actions may well be dangerously “in the dark”. This is a “deception” rather than the “positive force” it may appear to be. And in as much as it is deceiving rather than real, it moves one actually farther away, rather than closer to the sort of peace for which they/we are seeking.
    And for an example on the other end of the spectrum, if someone is focused on their anger with someone, rather than their love for them, if that anger is used as energy to give them courage to make the person aware of what they did that hurt them, and zero in on what exactly has disturbed their relationship and got them to the point of hurting the other, then both sides may well benefit from using what is typically seen as a negative energy, to sort out the source of the problem and how to resolve it.
    So these two are examples of a “positive” actually being a negative, and “negative” a positive.
    The reasons… the hidden agenda… hidden beliefs… replayed thoughts… all these might be… a wound trying to fester… which only happens if it is seeking healing… but wounds may well just repeat themselves when they arise, if a new more healing guidance is not available at the time.

    1. A good friend of mine (you) once gave me a saying that I continue to live. “Be who/what you are. It’s the first step to becoming better than you are.”

      I’d like to point out the last part of that message. “better than you are.”

      You are completely correct in saying that there is deception in living a “right life” in order to please or impress others. The deception is two fold in most cases. One where the person is deceiving others into believing that the person in question is better than they actually are. The other one is even more deceptive in that this person doing the deceiving is actually deceiving himself/herself into believing this lie themselves. So on that point where you are indicating that this is an example of someone who has no choice to be better… well… I’m not sure I agree. Being who they are to become better than they are requires realizing the truth in who they are. Not deceiving themselves.

      The other scenario you give also has difficulty. You indicate that the hatred is a good thing because it brings about an admittion to something that was troubling them and in so doing brings about change. Why do I disagree? Because it is predicated on hate. Hate is not a method that brings about forgiveness. In fact quite the opposite. Hatred rarely brings about forgiveness. Hatred being the catalyst to bring about an admittion would more likely bring about more hatred and strife rather than a realization or forgiving nature in anyone.

      On the other hand, lets put these two examples in a more positive “light.” Let’s say the first scenario was someone who had lived in that deceptive process for a long time in their life but had a gut feeling that something was wrong about it and didn’t like the deception… that person would be “being who they are” and at the same time trying to admit to themselves that something was wrong and eventually come into the knowledge of the truth they are actually trying to find.

      The other scenario… Instead of admitting to something because of hate, the person finds it within themselves to be hurt enough to express their feelings but without the hatred. Now healing can come. Now forgiveness can be given. Now both parties in this scenario can heal. The offended because they admitted, with love, the hurt that they had. The offender because they were not attacked with hatred. They were approached with love.

      So… does being who you are even if you are in the mode of hate accomplish good? Only if it leads somehow to some realization of the hatred and results in love in the end. That would be the only way I could see them becoming “better than they are.”

      So… does being who you are even if you are in the mode of deception do any good? Only if the person is also in some form of realization of the deception and eventually changes so that the deception is broken and truth comes to the forefront of their lives. That would be the “better than they are” factor we would be looking for in them.

      Now it would appear that this blog has become more than a short synopsis. More than a “short and sweet.” More than I had originally intended. But… I’m glad for that.

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