It amazes me the amount of fear that exists in peoples lives. Including my own. Fears of all types. Everything from fear of height, closed in places, of spiders, snakes, other vermin, of the dark, water, heat, cold, virus or other germs (not such a bad fear), public speaking, being seen in this or that environment or in this or that clothing or lack of, fear of dirt or grime, of something so benign as an earthworm, fear of dogs, cats, horses, motorcycles, swimming, of being to fat, of being to skinny, and the list goes on and on and on.
One fear I did not mention is fear of relationships. There are several fears that go along with this. Fear of loosing in a relationship. Fear of having a relationship. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of it not lasting (my personal battle). Fear of it actually lasting (yes I know some people like that). Some people do not know how to deal with a real relationship. Many men can not commit to it (yes… I know I’ve used “relationship” as a word too many times already). There are women that are the same way.
There are those that fear living as much as they fear death. Fear of living is not all that uncommon. Ask any psychiatrist.
Fears abound in all facets of life. Living in fear is not good. Living in an abundance of fear is worse. Learning to cope with fear, facing your fears, dealing with those fears you can not squelch, accepting some of them as impossible for you at this moment in time to conquer but may someday be able to master, all of this is a good thing.
I do hope I’m not breaking any rules, but, on Gray’s Anatomy the other night, there was a patient concerned for her own health that requested a doctor to tell her the procedure in specific detail so that she and her friends could attempt to heal her through thought. The premise of our being “beings of light” and being able to heal ourselves through our own energy (which on the show she did). Some others portrayed it as being faith even in that very same show.
No matter what you believe, belief itself is key. What goes on up there (in the mind) is real to you whether real to anyone else or not. What you believe to be true actually is to a large degree. If you are in constant fear that you are going to loose your job, something happens within you to cause you to make choices that lead to your doing or not doing something that eventually will cause that ultimate belief to exist in reality. We project what we believe to be true. It comes back to us in reality. Our fears as much as our wishes. Maybe in our fears more. I think it has to do somewhat with how much passion you place in your belief in whatever it is at that moment.
Our world is now in fear. It is in turmoil. We pain in our existence on a daily basis. We torment ourselves. How important it is now more than ever that we take a grip on our fears and hold them down and beat them to a pulp till the fear no longer exists and we live life in freedom from our fears. I preach to myself as much as anyone.
True living is not a life of fear. True living is life without fear. There will always be something that causes some doubt in us. Our own history of our own life will continue to haunt us. It is necessary then, at that moment, to take back the control, look at what it is, recognize it for what it is, deal with it, and move on. It doesn’t mean it won’t crop up on us again. Just that we have dealt with it for now. At this time. So that we can live again. At least for a while. At least for now.
Life is not an eternal bliss. Life is a challenge. A beautiful one. Life is exciting. Life…. Life is to be lived abundantly.