This is as much a personal question as it is anything else. We all are involved in some sort of search. One which involves every fiber of our being.
Some are in search of love. Some in search of money. Others in search of status or popularity. For many it is a search for multiple things. All of us are in search of something. Over the last few years I have found that my major search is for truth. Truth about many things. Not just about my personal relationships but for truth in all things meaningful to me. Love is one of those but not the only thing. In fact, I’m not sure that it is even the greatest or most important of my searching.
I’d say that my major search over the last few years has been in the realm of spirituality. I feel that I am making headway but have not yet attained. Not sure that I ever will on that level. This particular blog is not about that search or even any search in particular. It is more an attempt to point out that all of us are in some sort of search.
You may think you know that for which another person is search. I’d say that what we normally see on the surface is exactly that. Surface! It takes knowing that someone in a deeper manner to get even a glimpse into the depth of their search.
What ALL of us are really want and even need is significance. Whether that significance is to ourselves or to someone else or to “multiple others” does not really matter. It is what we all have that deep desire to have. Some sort of recognition even if in our own selves of ourselves.
I do believe that you need to find out who you are before you can really be of use to yourself or anyone else. A bit of the “love yourself first” theme. Once you have that then your search can continue toward other levels of acceptance whether your own personal acknowledgment of your own self worth or some measure of value from others.