Balance is the key. For everything there is balance. In order to understand joy you must first experience the pain. The greater the pain, the greater the joy can be experienced and appreciated.
What does this tell us? That pain is bad? Quite the contrary. Without pain or suffering, how would you know you were happy or glad. Without hunger, how would you know the pleasure of a meal. Would you understand it’s value? Doesn’t hunger give you a better understanding of the goodness of a full belly? Doesn’t food that tastes bland give you the appreciation for food that has flavor? Of course it does.
Without the cold we would not appreciate warmth. Without a loss, we never appreciate what we have. Those that are never alone never learn to appreciate those they have with them. At least not until they are gone. Those people that have much tend to never learn to appreciate the value of simple things.
I feel for those that have never experienced the loss of something dear to them. What is worse is to never allow yourself to experience that loss. Yes… that is possible. It’s called denial. It may be a method of self preservation, but, it limits that one who can not stand to experience the pain. To FEEL is what allows the person to experience all things. This is not an easy thing for most people. Allowing yourself to feel puts yourself in the position to be vulnerable. That is what makes it so difficult for most. Those of us that allow ourselves to feel are the ones that live life to it’s fullest.